What do You Take with You at the End of Your Earthly Journey

The best part of a man is his mind and when you have that, you need not be jealous of any other part of him which he shares with others.

The sweetest comment – “I like sharing with you.” What brought this about? You caught your image in the mirror still smiling, a warmth suffusing your whole being. For all his turpitude, your man can talk his head off when he’s with you. It is your effect on him, being a nurturing being. They say this quality makes women into moms, at whatever age. So, is this a good thing or what, to be the nappy lady of an errant child? There will be contradictions – as well as recantations – but I believe, a lot of us women would stick to being nurturing beings than turn to be the opposite.

There is a buzzing in your brain which tells you, it’s happening again, this feeling of euphoria, a dangerous feeling which could derail lucid thinking.

Photo taken in
Phang Nga Bay, Thailand which shows placid clear waters.

You were just going around in an easy conversation, discussing tasks at hand, and then, out of the blue, he tells you how it is to be for the next million years of his life. Meaning, sometime in the distant future, his goals will be met according to clockwork – he was so definite about accomplishing them. You hazard a comment in between, so as not to break his train of thoughts.There is a buzzing in your brain which tells you, it’s happening again, this feeling of euphoria, a dangerous feeling which could derail lucid thinking.

The best part of a man is his mind and when you have that, you need not be jealous of any other part of him which he shares with others. To girlfriends who fret and nag their men endlessly about spending more time with them, think about the best times spent are with you, when he is his most vulnerable self, longing for your affirmation. Never mind if he parties with his bosom friends or plays basketball in the wee hours, when all his energies are spent, he will surely come knocking at your door.

This a long road which can lead to a fork somewhere.

At the end of the day, you will go only with enough pictures of memories – shouldn’t they be pleasant memories which make you smile with contentment?

This is how a discordant relationship could be when you are as placid as water on a frozen lake and the other is over-energetic. There surely will be a clash of personalities. But in this particular situation, no such impositions, just the reminder, I am here, come when you can. An ideal relationship for me is just like that – over-easy, transparent, no restraint, no complaints. At the end of the day, you will go only with enough pictures of memories – shouldn’t they be pleasant memories which make you smile with contentment?

Often, he will tell you, in hasty retreat at your blossoming anger, but I don’t want to have to tell you a lie; I want only to have transparency between us.

Relationships can last long if there had been no false expectation on both sides. Or false promises. Falsehood breeds suspicions and contempt as they get repeated/ discovered. Often, he will tell you, in hasty retreat at your blossoming anger, but I don’t want to have to tell you a lie; I want only to have transparency between us. So, if you want to have your cake, and eat it too, define what you want out of a relationship, learn to be patient, have a listening ear, and practice counting before you say the first word in a burst of dismay.:)

Giving in to anger is like holding back the onrush of waters.